My business coach will absolutely not like that I'm sharing this, but I will be the first person to admit that I have struggled with the idea of feeling qualified to teach on the topic of relationships. My marriage is far from perfect and I have zero formal education on the topic. But when push comes to shove, does that really even matter?
There are MILLIONS of certified therapists and relationship experts, but how many of them are resourceful as hell, have an abundance of personal experience, have done the hard work for themselves, and are drowning in empathy? Go ahead and think on that, I'll wait.
Ok, that was snarky AF, but also, I think I'm hilarious. Humor me.
If this blog post turns out to only be for the sake of my own personal reminder, that's just fine. BUT if it empowers you to follow your own dreams, or inspires you to trust me to help you achieve your relationship goals, that's even better!
Now that we've gotten the intro for this blog post out of the way, let's dive into the list of reasons that make me qualified as hell.
1) I studied recreational therapy as part of my major in college. What does that have to do with anything? I'll tell you.
Recreational therapy is an approach that uses the outdoors and movement to provide healing. I think it's safe to say that we all need quite a bit of healing in order to be able to give and receive love more fully and honestly, this is probably my favorite outcome for those who participate in my program! Anyways, I took countless courses that dove deep into the details of flow and play, the science of happiness, and the reality of healing. While I didn't go down this route for my career, the lessons and experiences have stuck with me for years. These same principles and tactics have played a major role in my own journey and have proven to be valuable in the creation of my program.
2) My background in weddings has shown me that countless couples enter into their marriage without a stable foundation or understanding of what a healthy relationship actually looks like.
I've worked in the wedding industry for 5 years at this point and I have seen far too many couples who haven't had the hard conversations on topics like boundaries and non-negotiables, what mutual respect actually looks like beyond the honeymoon phase, or what happens if things start to head south. I won't lie and tell you that my husband and I had all of this figured out prior to tying the knot, but we had established a mutual understanding that our marriage was going to be a major learning experience as long as we both honored each other's non-negotiables.
3) I'm the most resourceful human that I've ever met.
I know that might sound a little cocky, but I whole-heartedly mean it! When I want to learn about something, I spend hours scouring the internet, reading books, listening to podcasts, and fully immersing myself in that topic. Those hours are usually followed by countless more hours spent learning how to apply the things that I've learned to my own life. This is exactly how I have treated the topics of self-healing and relationships. I've done all the research for you and I've taken it a step further by compiling it into the most heart-driven coaching program that is neatly packaged with a figurative bow!
4) I've worked in the alternative health industry while also deeply valuing modern science and medicine.
This matters because most people typically choose Eastern or Western medicine, they rarely combine the two in order to create a more expansive toolbox to draw from. By this, I mean that I am an advocate for traditional therapy AND reiki (energy healing). Modern medicine is amazing! While traditional medicine has withstood the literal test of time. These modalities often are so complementary to one another and I've explored them all. My program is such a beautiful culmination of science, intuition, and self-discovery that is unlike anything I've seen before.
5) I bleed empathy.
My husband can attest to the fact that I feel the emotions of others on a DEEP and personal level. That means that as you go through my program, I will be right alongside you to celebrate every single win and I will also be with you during the darker moments while you navigate some hard truths. It also means that my highest priority in offering this program is to provide you with the tools and resources to transform your relationship, and I don't just mean during the program. I want you to feel equipped and empowered to continue on this journey with your love long after the 6-week program has ended! Yeah, sure, I love money, but at the end of the day, if you haven't grown exponentially as an individual and also as a couple, you can have it have back because that means I have failed at my job.
6) My personal life experiences have prepared me for this work.
I want to say that I've been through it all, but I'm not naive enough to believe that's actually true. I have however experienced physical and emotional abuse, sexual assault, soooooo much infidelity, depression, religious conditioning, addiction, crippling anxiety, and a slew of other challenges. Prior to meeting my husband, I had absolutely no idea what a healthy relationship looked like or how to even communicate in a semi-productive way. Oddly enough, I genuinely feel like my entire life has led me to this.
7) I have done this work myself to completely transform my own life and marriage.
I know you might be thinking that what worked for me may not work for you, and you are 100% right. This is why I have included SO many different modalities and tactics to propel you towards your relationship goals. Throughout the course, you will get to try out so many new things to ultimately determine what resonates with you. I've also made myself incredibly accessible to each of my clients, along with providing them access to a supportive and loving community to ensure that they get the support and attention necessary to succeed. My mission is to provide you with a transformed relationship and damnit, that's what we're going to do!