Updated: Jan 23, 2021

As a wedding planner, I often see couples that fail to capitalize on the planning process as an opportunity to set the tone for their entire marriage. That is why I have put together this list of five elements to incorporate into your wedding planning for a more solid marriage. This list will show you what I believe can set you and your partner up for a lasting relationship!

1. Intention This means approaching your relationship, and all of the decisions that accompany it, with purpose. Wedding planning provides a variety of opportunities for you to practice evaluating the data and making purposeful decisions together.

2. Connection Working together to plan your wedding provides such a beautiful opportunity to become more unified as a couple. Throughout the planning process, you can choose to learn more about each other and make developing a deeper and more meaningful connection a priority. Along the way, you're sure to discover countless new reasons to get excited about your future together!

3. Communication

Learning how to communicate as a couple is far different than communicating with a friend, parent, or co-worker. Planning a wedding together allows you the perfect opportunity to learn how to create a safe space for each of you to better express your thoughts and feelings. Clearly communicating what you need and want from your partner is essential to a happy marriage. The more you practice this skill, the better you will become.

4. Collaboration It's easy to let one partner make all of the wedding decisions, but how you go about planning your wedding will inherently set the tone for your future together. Working side-by-side to incorporate elements of each of you is a great way to start learning how to harmoniously blend your lives and individual interests.

5. Playfulness Planning a wedding can easily get stressful and overwhelming, especially if you are constantly living in the details. By intentionally incorporating opportunities for playfulness and remembering to laugh, you will often be reminded of why you said yes to forever! Not to mention, you'll also probably create some really special memories along the way.

As a way to help couples incorporate these elements into their relationship/wedding planning, each You & Me Intentionally kit comes with a match set called Spark Romance. This set includes 50 fun ways to deepen your connection. As an effort to incorporate these same elements into my own marriage, my husband and I have been drawing a match stick each week and sharing it with you on social media. We've also been sharing our weekly date nights to hopefully share some fun ideas. I'd love for you to join in and use the hashtag #youandmeintentionally so that I can follow along with your journey to a more intentional relationship!

Updated: Jan 25, 2021


The flagship wedding planning kit is now called To The Aisle, Through Every Trial. You can now also purchase the physical workbook independent of the kit. Look for I Love You, I Do in the shop.

What is included in the kit?

Each kit includes the ADVANCED version of my wedding planning workbook. This workbook covers things like finding the perfect vendors, allocating your budget according to your priorities, how to write your vows, creating a day-of timeline with your vendors, and much more. There are more than ten worksheets for you and your partner to complete together to help you establish healthy communication habits and practice making life decisions as a team. The workbook includes a payment tracking spreadsheet, storage space for your vendor contracts, and also a place to keep track of notes. Lastly, the workbook includes a variety of discount codes and offers from some of my favorite vendors.

In addition to the workbook, the kits come with a master checklist fridge magnet, 50 ways to deepen your connection, and everything that you need for a memorable date night. The date night activity in the launch kit is an evening spent around the campfire roasting gourmet s' mores from Madyson's Marshmallows. You will be able to choose between peanut-butter or chocolate-filled marshmallows when you checkout.

Why should I purchase this kit?

I've been to countless weddings and I feel that so often these events are lacking personality and connection with the couple. Which, in my opinion, is such a missed opportunity! My workbook is designed to help you determine what elements are unique to your relationship and to help you explore a variety of ways to incorporate them into your celebration. You'll also be guided through the process of allocating your budget based on what you value most. I don't believe in a standard budget breakdown because every couple is so unique and their priorities often reflect that.

The second element of this kit is the opportunity to create a solid foundation for your marriage. In a world where more than 50% of marriages end in divorce, I wanted to provide a product that would help give couples a fighting chance. By being intentional with your relationship, learning to communicate and make tough decisions together, along with making date nights and a meaningful connection with your partner a top priority, I believe that you will have a much healthier foundation for a lasting and fulfilling marriage.

Why is it so expensive?

On average, most couples spend 500+ hours planning their own wedding. Consider the time and memories that you would have to give up in order to find an extra 500 hours in your life. For those couples who opt to hire a professional wedding planner, these services can cost between $3,500 - $10,000. YOU & ME INTENTIONALLY is not meant to replace hiring a professional, but it will guide you through the wedding planning process to ensure that you don't need to spend countless hours gathering the information necessary to plan your wedding. If you do opt not to hire a professional, I can promise that buying this kit will be the best decision you could possibly make. Not to mention, the discount codes in the back of my workbook will easily save you more than what you will pay for this kit.

What are these worksheets that I keep hearing about in the workbook?

Throughout the workbook, I have created a number of worksheets for you and your partner to complete together. Some of these worksheets include either/or scenarios to help you narrow down what your ideal celebration of love looks like. There are also worksheets to brainstorm your guest list, to rank your potential vendor according to your priorities, to write your vows, and even to create a day-of-contact list. The idea behind these worksheets is that they will provide a constructive environment for you and your sweetheart to discuss your preferences and come to an agreeable decision together. By fostering your communication skills and your ability to make decisions as a couple, you can feel confident that your marriage is being set up for success.

What if I want to hire you after purchasing the kit?

I'd love to work with you! With that being said, I know that the kit is a bit of an investment. That is why I have included a discount for anyone that purchases the kit and then decides that they would benefit from hiring a professional wedding planner. Please send me an email with your purchase receipt to info@wheatandweather.com. You're also welcome to schedule a complimentary 30-minute consultation call via the link on my website.

Will this help me find vendors?

There is a lot that goes into finding the perfect vendors for your wedding. I cover most of this in the workbook, but I am always happy to help you navigate any challenges that you might face during the process. Additionally, I've included discount codes for a number of my favorite vendors in the back of the workbook.

How do I redeem the discounts?

Some of the discounts require a specific code that can be found on the last page of the workbook. Please see below for those specific instructions:

Schedule Me In - Schedule Me In is a relationship planner that is designed to help you be more intentional with your relationship by physically scheduling in your favorite person! This company has offered to include a free Mine/Yours set of pens for anyone that has purchased my workbook - a $14.95 value! Visit their website https://theyesgirls.com/form/order-schedule-me-in-the-relationship-planner// and select the option "Add Mine/Yours Set of Pens".Your discount will be automatically applied at checkout when you use the code provided.

Minted - Use the code provided to enjoy 35% off save the dates, plus 25% off any Minted wedding purchase. If you work with Wheat & Weather Creative Design Co.as your designated wedding planner, you will also have access to a free custom monogram for your wedding.

For all of the other discounts, you will just need to send a screenshot of your purchase receipt to the vendor when you reach out.


Have more questions? Feel free to email me at info@wheatandweather.com and I will be sure to get those added to this FAQ post as soon as I can!

Outdoor weddings are becoming increasingly popular, especially with coronavirus still at large. These often spacious venues make it easier for social distancing and also incorporate the element of fresh air into the mix. Additionally, nature can effortlessly provide a stunning backdrop for your beautiful day of celebration! Whether you opt to go with a nature-inspired venue due to budget constraints or personal preference, there are many details that often go overlooked that can easily help ensure that your special day is remembered for all the right reasons.

1. Consider your start time

Many wedding ceremonies often begin around 4:30-5 pm; however, this is often the warmest part of a summer day and can result in a seriously sweaty soiree. I've never met a bride or groom that is immune to a little perspiration while wearing a 3-piece suit or heavily-beaded wedding gown, especially when the sun is showing off by creating the ideal conditions for a perfectly sidewalk-cooked egg. Just as you don't want to be uncomfortable during your ceremony, your guests don't either. Not to mention that your photos may be littered with guests' pit stains, fallen hairstyles, harsh lighting, and melting mascara. On the flip side, the light fades much earlier during the winter, which could cause challenges for your photographer. Coordinate with your photographer to research the typical time for sunset and create a timeline based around the perfect lighting coupled with the most comfortable temperatures.

2. Paperweights are required

For some strange reason, every couple seems to think that their wedding will be immune to weather complications. This is rarely the case, but there are countless small things that you can do to avoid the most common inconveniences. One of these small things is to incorporate paperweights that will withstand the occasional breeze. Take advantage of this opportunity to spice up your tablescape with fun details such as a vibrate agate, miniature potted succulents, a small bag of your favorite coffee beans, or maybe even an array of seashells. These tiny tokens can double as a favor and will keep your menu cards and napkins from being disturbed. You'll also want to be sure to consider weights for any signage, specifically directional instructions that may be impacted by cars speeding by.

3. Add seasonal accessories to keep your guests comfortable

Woven fans, fur shawls, or playful umbrellas are just a few ideas to consider when thinking of how to ensure that your guests remain comfortable while enjoying your stunning outdoor location. Planning ahead and being intentional with these fun additions provides a great opportunity to further enhance your overall theme. Many calligraphers love to help by customizing these types of accessories to help your guests know that you put their enjoyment at the top of your priority list.

4. Parking must not be overlooked

Have you ever pulled out your fancy shoes for a wedding? You know, those ones that pinch just a little too tightly on your pinky toe and require a foot soak after just an hour's wear? You're not the only one who believes that a wedding is a perfect occasion for those gorgeous heels or Italian-leather loafers. Hopefully, through this illustration you can see why expecting your guests to walk a half-mile on a gravel pathway in their finest attire is ludicrous. Consider providing a shuttle service or valet parking to ensure that your guests have enough of a pain-tolerance left to tear up the dance floor when the time comes.

5. Protect your delicates

I know what you're thinking, you perv. Get your mind out of the gutter, because I'm talking about cake! Wedding cakes can often be quite a visual spectacle, which means that you will probably want some amazing photos to document its full glory before your guests dig in. Unfortunately, buttercream and sweltering heat don't play well together. Work with your cake provider to determine a delivery time that will ensure your cake is in mint condition. You may need to ask your venue if there is an onsite building with air conditioning or plan for some sort of awning to protect your delicate dessert.

While there are a variety of other elements that should be considered when planning for an outdoor wedding, hopefully, these points get your mind turning in the right direction and lead you and your sweetheart down a path of thoughtful innovation for an enjoyable celebration. Even so, if you just consider these 5 points, I can promise that your guests will notice and appreciate your attention to detail. Happy planning!