Updated: Jul 7
Congratulations! You and your sweetheart have decided on forever and are now starting to mull around a few ideas regarding the wedding. Whether or not hiring a wedding planner is something that either of you have considered, read why hiring a wedding planner should be non-negotiable.
1) No One Needs More Stress
Between working full-time, maintaining some level of cleanliness in your home, navigating the nuances of any relationship, and trying to lead a more intentional and meaningful life; I think that it's safe to say that stress is a staple in our daily lives. While stress truly has become unavoidable in today's world, that doesn't mean that you can't find ways to mitigate it. Hiring a wedding planner is a great option to maintain enough energy to fuel the positive momentum in your relationship and personal goals! Professional wedding planners are experts at helping you feel supported and informed, which are two critical factors for feeling in control. Knowing that someone is keeping a close eye on your timeline and budget can allow you and your partner to rest assured that everything is being taken care of. In addition to the pre-wedding logistics, your wedding planner should be an expert in ensuring that your wedding day runs smoothly; so that all you have to do is relax, enjoy, and make memories!
2) Money Doesn't Grow On Trees
Determining and sticking to a budget is one of the less enjoyable parts of planning a wedding. Most wedding planners and websites will give you an industry percentage breakdown or average cost for each element of a typical wedding. I believe that these numbers can be a great resource to know when a vendor is gouging you, but aside from that, I believe that they're completely useless. You work hard for your money, and I don't want you to feel as though you are wasting it! I believe that each wedding should be uniquely tailored to the couple that you are working with. Every couple will value each element of their wedding differently. Some couples will put a live band at the top of their priority list, while others may have a five-course seated dinner as their highest priority. Some couples may opt to host a weekend of memorable experiences, while others may opt for an intimate vow exchange celebrated with local wine and cheese. For this reason, I love to work with my clients to better understand which elements they both value and how their budget should be allocated based on what is most important to them. Beyond this, a wedding planner should help you keep track of your wedding spend and make intentional adjustments when necessary to ensure the budget is respected.
3) Industry Experts Aren't Born, They're Made From Years of Experience and Countless Failures
I know it's a strange phenomenon, but when you live and breathe weddings on a daily basis, you tend to become a bit of an expert. Ironically enough, most couples only plan 1-3 weddings throughout the course of their life. I don't know about you, but attempting to become an industry expert overnight to simply plan your own wedding seems to be quite an inefficient approach. A talented wedding planner will use each wedding and each failure as a learning experience to enhance their ongoing list of "lessons-learned". I know that the idea of failure when it comes to your wedding may ignite a little fear, but failure from time to time is inevitable. However, the difference between an amateur and an event professional is their ability to navigate failure in a graceful and innovative manner that goes completely unnoticed by those in attendance. After some time in the industry, seamless pivoting becomes second nature and your services offered become more refined and of higher quality.
While we're on the topic of industry experts, sometimes the price of a wedding planner may seem steep, but it's important to consider their past experiences. How many years have they been in the industry? What are their past career endeavors that may enhance their offerings? Do they have an educational background that contributes to their expertise? A culmination of applicable past experiences makes for a professional that you can trust. These past experiences are also why there are countless options when it comes to hiring a wedding planner. Finding someone that you connect and resonate with is essential! Do your research and find a planner that YOU can trust.
4) Wedding Planning Can Either Derail or Strengthen Your Relationship
No matter, which way you look at it, relationships require constant work and effort. I strongly believe that making your relationship a top priority is the only way to ensure its success. The tricky part is that we are all constantly being pulled in so many different directions, that it's incredibly easy to get sidetracked. Add into the mix, the struggle of navigating your future in-laws, moving in together, and trying to figure out how to plan a wedding. These monumental life-changes often trigger fear, break open old wounds, and lead to a sense of overwhelm. Choosing to neglect these challenges can result in emotional outbursts, a lack of mutual understanding, and a sense of divide between you and your future spouse. On the flip side, working through these pivotal times together as a united team can help in creating a rock-solid foundation for your marriage to be built upon.
I have found that planning a wedding can create the ideal environment for couples to grow together, or to grow apart. In a lot of traditional relationships, it's not uncommon for the future groom to "gift" his bride-to-be free reign when it comes to wedding planning. I feel that this is such a missed opportunity to learn more about each other and how your individual styles and preferences compliment one another! I'm not sure about you, but in a world where a large majority of marriages end in divorce, I want to give my relationship a fair shot by starting things off on the right foot. To me, that means setting the tone by learning how to work through times of stress/change together as a team right off the bat.
5) What Are Time, Money, and Memories Worth to You?
When you hire a professional wedding planner, you are hiring a) someone who has created a streamlined planning process based on trial and error, b) someone who has seen the typical challenges when planning a wedding and knows how to avoid/navigate them, c) someone who is naturally incredibly organized and has an eye for design, d) someone who has an internal checklist for before, during, and after your wedding to ensure nothing is forgotten or missed, e) someone who can field any hiccups with ease and discretion, f) someone who wants to make sure that your special day is as enjoyable and focused on your love as possible. Opting to plan your own wedding is definitely a viable option, but be sure to consider the amount of time and money that you will be required to contribute. Is this time and money that could be spent making memories with your friends and family, strengthening your relationship, or furthering your own personal growth? What memories will be sacrificed by those who are running around on the day of your wedding to make sure that the timeline is followed, vendors are directed, and things are going according to plan? If you find yourself questioning how you can afford to hire an expert, switch the narrative, and ask yourself how you can afford not to.