Updated: Jan 23, 2021
As a wedding planner, I often see couples that fail to capitalize on the planning process as an opportunity to set the tone for their entire marriage. That is why I have put together this list of five elements to incorporate into your wedding planning for a more solid marriage. This list will show you what I believe can set you and your partner up for a lasting relationship!
1. Intention This means approaching your relationship, and all of the decisions that accompany it, with purpose. Wedding planning provides a variety of opportunities for you to practice evaluating the data and making purposeful decisions together.
2. Connection Working together to plan your wedding provides such a beautiful opportunity to become more unified as a couple. Throughout the planning process, you can choose to learn more about each other and make developing a deeper and more meaningful connection a priority. Along the way, you're sure to discover countless new reasons to get excited about your future together!
Learning how to communicate as a couple is far different than communicating with a friend, parent, or co-worker. Planning a wedding together allows you the perfect opportunity to learn how to create a safe space for each of you to better express your thoughts and feelings. Clearly communicating what you need and want from your partner is essential to a happy marriage. The more you practice this skill, the better you will become.
4. Collaboration It's easy to let one partner make all of the wedding decisions, but how you go about planning your wedding will inherently set the tone for your future together. Working side-by-side to incorporate elements of each of you is a great way to start learning how to harmoniously blend your lives and individual interests.
5. Playfulness Planning a wedding can easily get stressful and overwhelming, especially if you are constantly living in the details. By intentionally incorporating opportunities for playfulness and remembering to laugh, you will often be reminded of why you said yes to forever! Not to mention, you'll also probably create some really special memories along the way.
As a way to help couples incorporate these elements into their relationship/wedding planning, each You & Me Intentionally kit comes with a match set called Spark Romance. This set includes 50 fun ways to deepen your connection. As an effort to incorporate these same elements into my own marriage, my husband and I have been drawing a match stick each week and sharing it with you on social media. We've also been sharing our weekly date nights to hopefully share some fun ideas. I'd love for you to join in and use the hashtag #youandmeintentionally so that I can follow along with your journey to a more intentional relationship!